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“Apologies aren’t meant to change the past, they are meant to change the future.” 

I remembered that quote on Tuesday on my manner home with my husband Sean after assembly New York Gov. Kathy Hochul. We had been invited to the assembly after the governor noticed us at a rally outdoors her Manhattan workplace a few weeks in the past once we had been advocating on behalf of the family members we misplaced to COVID final spring in separate long run care services. 

It was a small, closed door assembly. There had been no photos taken contained in the workplace.  It was merely a second to lastly communicate and be heard.

 Daniel Arbeeny, Haydee Pabney, Assemblyman Ron Kim, Alexa Rivera Janice Dean, her husband Sean Newman and Peter Arbeeny pose for a picture earlier than assembly with New York Gov. Hochul  about 2020 COVID nursing home deaths on October 12, 2021.


This was the primary time our household has ever been acknowledged by the governor’s workplace. As she walked in and shook our arms, she provided her condolences.

 “I’m sorry for your loss.”

I thanked her for taking the time to sit with us, and discover out what we’ve been combating for all these months.

Janice Dean opens up about loss of in-laws to COVID-19Video

Without any of us understanding on March twenty fifth of 2020 former Gov. Andrew Cuomo issued an government order to admit over 9,000 COVID optimistic sufferers into New York nursing houses for 46 days.  Even Cuomo knew this is able to endanger our seniors when he pre-emptively warned the virus would “spread like fire through dry grass.” 


It’s nonetheless a thriller to us as to why he and his well being workplace determined to gentle the match.

Instead of being trustworthy, and admitting this was a horrible resolution, Cuomo lied, denied, blamed others whereas masking up the loss of life toll.  While he may’ve met with households or expressed his condolences, the governor determined it was extra vital to rejoice himself by writing a e book and successful an Emmy.

Janice Dean reacts to Gov. Andrew Cuomo’s resignation: ‘I’m in shock’Video

As grieving members of the family, many of us wished some variety of acknowledgement for our ache and grief.  Instead, we had been accused of enjoying politics for wanting to know why our family members had been put in grave hazard. 

My good pal and fellow advocate New York State Assemblyman Ron Kim, who misplaced his uncle to COVID in a nursing home assist prepare the sit down. 


I’m so grateful for his kindness and management via all of this.  Tuesday’s assembly would by no means have occurred with out him. 

Gov. Hochul was empathetic and beneficiant together with her time.  She wished to hear from all of us, and listened to our ideas and considerations about how we will lastly begin the therapeutic course of and the way in which ahead to assist be certain that it doesn’t occur once more.

Janice Dean's sister-in-law on losing parents to COVID-19 after they were exposed in NY nursing homes Video

My husband Sean, who’s a very non-public particular person, finds it very troublesome to speak about his loss. He was ready clarify to her how painful it was dropping each his dad and mom in such a quick interval of time with out having the ability to see or consolation them. 

Dee and Mickey Newman in an undated family photograph.

Dee and Mickey Newman in an undated household {photograph}.
(Courtesy Janice Dean)

He advised her how he introduced his mother flowers a few days after his father died, however couldn’t hug her. He stood six toes away within the foyer of her assisted dwelling residence telling her to dangle on. We’d get via this. 

That was the final time he noticed her earlier than she bought sick and died. 

Janice Dean's in-laws Dee and Mickey Newman attend their son Sean's promotion ceremony to battalion chief

Janice Dean’s in-laws Dee and Mickey Newman attend their son Sean’s promotion ceremony to battalion chief
(Courtesy Janice Dean)

Seeing my husband sharing this with the governor introduced me proper again to what it was like a yr and a half in the past. The shock, confusion, and grief crashed over me so onerous I may barely catch my breath.

I cried listening to my buddies Peter and Daniel Arbeeny speak about their father Norman, asking if his loss of life counted in Gov. Cuomo’s whitewash of the numbers.  

Haydee Pabey and Alexa Rivera confirmed Gov. Hochul photos of their mothers Elba and Ana whereas sharing their tragic tales. 

New York Gov. Kathy Hochul speaks to reporters after a ceremonial swearing-in ceremony at the state Capitol, Tuesday, Aug. 24, 2021, in Albany, N.Y. 

New York Gov. Kathy Hochul speaks to reporters after a ceremonial swearing-in ceremony on the state Capitol, Tuesday, Aug. 24, 2021, in Albany, N.Y. 
(AP Photo)

Gov. Hochul says that going ahead, her administration goes to clear.  She gave us her phrase that her administration would work with us. 

She appeared us within the eye and thanked us for being robust, relentless advocates.

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Cuomo wished everybody to imagine this was about politics. It by no means was. There had been no Democrats or Republicans in that room pouring their hearts out.

It was about human beings wanting to assist and listening to those who had been hurting.

I left the assembly with a glimmer of hope. That’s one thing I haven’t had in a very long time.